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TUESDAY THOUGHT 6/17/08

What Do Men & Woman Want?
 
Fifty years ago, I saw women who were afraid to speak up, who thought it was their job in marriage to be silent and long-suffering.  It left many men out there alone and on their own, often indifferent to a woman’s views.  Then, about 25 years ago, I began seeing women who had become demanding, overbearing, way into self-centered self-expression, who thought a man’s focus should be on their needs.  It left many men feeling uncertain, angry, secretive, wondering what they needed to do to please their women.
 
Today I am seeing a wondrous combination of men and women who feel free to speak their minds, but who have learned to respect their own and each other’s opinions and views.  Most of all, I see men who understand that strength, steadiness and patience are what most women really want, value and respect.  As a result, I see more and more couples who are bold, outspoken and independent, responsible for themselves as individuals but supporting each other emotionally as true partners. 
 
My point:  It seems to me that marriage (in fact, every relationship) is not about dominators or whiners, or one person trying to please the other.  It is about being independent enough to self-sustain, but caring enough to share and support each other.  So, enjoy and respect each other.  — jri
 
“A hesitant man is the last thing in the
world a woman needs.  She needs a
lover and a warrior, not a Really Nice
Guy.”
        –    John Eldredge
               (Wild at Heart)